Reason To Homeschool #5Socialization"What about socialization?" This is one of the dreaded questions homeschooling parents get asked by friends and family. My response is, "Absolutely! That's one of the best reasons to homeschool."
I love to challenge assumptions with people and one of those is that children should learn to socialize with other children their own age. I ask them why and they usually sputter about the child in question being a social reject and unable to work in groups. I tell them that they have a point if the child will grow up to be a peer of 5 to 18 year-olds.
Why on earth would any child want that as a career choice?
Instead, I argue that the aim of an education, at least socially, is to produce a balanced, versatile adult. Our children should be taught manners, the art of conversation, and the rudimentary basics of articulating and defending a point of view without resorting to name-calling, attacks or intimidation. I then ask them which of the two environments--home schooling and public education--is more likely to produce a positive result? It certainly isn't a public school system!
In a public school, if there are manners taught, it is the manners reinforced by immature peers that don't speak to adults unless it's absolutely necessary. A candidate hoping to be accepted among the elite of their peers would dread the thought of being seen in an active, mutually affirming conversation with a teacher. Additionally, independent thought and defending a point of view outside of structures like debate class (usually an elective) are actively discouraged by the current social structure within public schools. This is a point that
John Taylor Gatto, former New York state School Teacher Of The Year, makes repeatedly in his books.
Homeschooling, by contrast, offers greater opportunities for interaction between a student and the people with whom that child will eventually be a peer. Most home school students that I know are well socialized and ready for continuing interaction with adults in the real world.